Wednesday, September 1, 2010
The #1 Seduction Skill
“it’s not who you know, it’s who you know that likes you”
Odds are you are going to be a flop in the game of life, if you don’t master this skill! If you want to have any hope in seducing life, this it. The good thing is that you can master it (if you haven’t already). Yes, of course I am talking about likeability.
“if you weren’t born beautiful and talented, life will still be kind to you, if you are highly likeable”
Being likeable having an unfair advantage over others. The likeable, tend to get the best jobs, have more friends and better relationships. And this doesn’t even scratch the surface of the benefits.
“ can you think of anyone who was ever seduced by an un-likeable person”
You might be convinced through logic and persuasion to do someone’s bidding but never will you be seduced if you don’t find them at likeable. Let me give you an example of the importance of being likeable. Awhile back, I read of a study that was done to determine the likeability of the U.S. Presidents. In every case since the advent of television, the candidate who was deemed by the public to be the most likeable person (by the public) won each election. How is that for powerful…
“it isn’t the choices we make about other people that makes life fun, easy and abundant, it’s the choices they make about us”
Need more convincing? Here are some more benefits that the likeable people get:
*Doctors give better care and more time to the patients they like (which of course means they live longer and experience less pain)
*They inspire others to give more
*They are viewed as being more trustworthy (a pretty good skill to have if you want to sell something)
* Likeable students get more attention and better grades
* We forgive them quicker for any misdeeds (I could use that one)
* They get better service and better deals from businesses.
“you don’t have to be likeable to succeed anymore than you have to be smart, but unless you have something against having an advantage, it sure helps”
There will always be the foolish few, who actually prefer to go it alone. Their attitude is…I don’t need other people to make it. I admire a person with principles but that is a dumb one. If others want to help me and make my life easier and more fun, I say welcome aboard friend.
“likeable people are happier than others, a coincidence…I think not”
Now that we have established that the most important skill in the seduction of life, is to likeable, the obvious question is how? I’ve done a ton of researching and applied my limited brain power to provide you with some answers. And that’s a whole lot of what this book is about.
So keep reading and I’ll share some fresh insights. I might even go into more depth than the ever popular method of ….buying the first round.