visualization is a good technique to walk you towards your goals and aspirations
but pretending is like having a Ferrari"
Last night the
wedding photographer cornered me for a conversation right after my MC duties
were over. He said, I just wanted to say that God blessed you with a
natural talent for speaking and entertaining a crowd. I kept noticing how much
the people in this room loved you. I hope that you are appreciative of
the gifts that God gave you?
As much as I was willing to let him
inflate my little pointed head, I thought to myself this isn't really true.
Because if God gave me that gift he sure hid it from me for a long time. And
he hid it so well it took many years to find it.
I'm the guy who failed
Grade 12 English because I was so painfully shy that I couldn't deliver a 3
minute speech to my classmates. My marks up to the end of class were plenty
good enough to pass but this teacher was determined to use me as an example to
the rest of the class. That old battle axe, as I called her, actually flunked
me because of my shyness disability.
So how did I go from the shy
introverted kid to someone that people believe has a natural talent in front the
crowd? After I got out of school and into the big bad world I quickly
recognized that my shyness liability was hurting me so I convinced myself to
start pretending that I wasn't shy. I couldn't go from shy to public speaker in
one step just by pretending, that would be just too big a leap.
started out on the edges of my comfort zone. I started pretending by
occasionally speaking out in a small group and worked my way up to larger
groups. Amazingly, people stopped seeing me as shy and just assumed I was
normal. It has progressed over the years. Then one day I realized that I
actually had become an extrovered guy. Wow...I pretended my way to being
perceived as a 'natural born speaker'. Amazing!
As I said, start
pretending on the edges of your comfort zone. There is no point pretending to
be a medical doctor when you haven't graduated from high school. Small
progressive pretending steps will take you a long way towards your objective.
No need to be delusional about it.
"You become who you
pretend to be"
You start acting as if....and one day....you
are! How beautifully simple is that? And the reason this works is because
you are actually taking positive action towards becoming something. That is the
big flaw in using visualization to achieve something. Without action it just
doesn't work very well. You can sit their all day visualizing and try to
create some perfect vibration but at the end of day nothing much changes. And
that is why I say....
"Positive thoughts without positive
action is a postive waste of time"
It's more fun and
productive to pretend to be what you want to become. So what can you pretend