I had to chuckle when I read a study that
showed that fear disapates when we are hugged. I mean really, didn't we already
know that. Every parent learns instintively that a scared child can be calmed
down with a good loving hug. And yet I do keep learning more about the power of
a hug all the time. Let me tell you a little story....
I was the MC at a
friends wedding. During the wedding ceremony I could not help but notice that
the Maid of Honor looked distressed. After the ceremony was over I took her
aside and asked if everything was ok? She told me she was freaked out about
giving the toast to the bride. She really surprised me since she isn't the
bashful type. But she told me that just thinking about standing up and having
all eyes on her was making her sick.
She showed me pages and pages of
notes. I think I'd be nervous if I had to read from all of those papers? Then I
got an idea! I told her to put away the papers and just speak from the heart
about her best friend. I also assurred her that I make her so relaxed she would
enjoy her moment.
It was time to introduce the head table. When I got to
her, here is how I introduced her....'and this is my friend Marilyn who is
also the brides best friend. Marilyn is one the sweetest and kindest people I
know and a world class hugger. And if any you people doubt me...just go check
her out yourself!'
A handsome young man leaped to his feet and
shouted out, "I'll check her out". The crowd roared as he went up and
gave her a long enthusiastic hug. Marilyn was laughing along with the crowd.
Then 3 more young men took up the challenge. The room was rocking with laughter
and just when it started to subside the preacher stood up said he wanted to
check her out as well. Not this was getting hillarious. I've never seen Marilyn
laughs so hard and she is a girl who loves to laugh.
the preacher had his hug I asked her to give her toast to the bride. She gave a
beautiful loving toast and did it with good humor and grace. It was
the cuddle homone oxytocin into your brain. The beautiful thing about oxytocin
is that it reaches the brain almost instantaniously. Oxytocin has a dampening
effect on fear.
So if you are ever nervous about public speaking just
get some good hugs first. It works amazingly well. Toastmaster should promote my
idea and it would speed up helping people get over their fears of public
speaking. And of course its fun and just plain feels good.